When you know, you know. — If you can read people well, you know if they’re a good fit before you meet or go out on a date. You don’t always know why you know. But you know. And it’s painfully obvious. …

Let’s start by changing pronouns when we read in meetings — The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous needs an overhaul. The language is outdated and sexist, and despite the claim that atheists are welcome, it reads like a belief in a Christian God is mandatory. I came across an online discussion in 2020 about using gender neutrality in Alcoholics Anonymous literature…

And it’s time to seek help — I try not to read or watch the news, but when I do, it’s increasingly disturbing. We’re a hot mess. Our troubles have caught up with us, and I can’t see the light at the end of the long, dark tunnel yet. I’m concerned about our collective mental health. None…

Perspective changes everything — I used to smoke meth with my boyfriend Nick, who lived in a trailer next to a huge pile of gravel. It was a work yard, with heavy machinery and tractors all around. I was fascinated by the gravel pile. We didn’t see much of the usual industrial yards or…

And I had to get a crown that costs a fortune — Everyone should be able to get affordable dental health care, but it’s unfortunately not a reality for many of us. Getting regular exams, x-rays, and cleanings is an essential part of our overall health. A dental emergency can lead to financial ruin, even with insurance coverage. Those of us who…

Remember you can take back your power anytime — Domesticated cats are a divine paradox — fierce, feisty, yet often gentle, and reliant on us to care for them. They’re one of the most powerful animals I’ve encountered and I’m honored to have one as a pet. I’ve had many cats, and I’ve noticed how much they own their…

You’ll stop being a martyr and accept what you’re worth — If you see yourself as a valuable resource, you won’t keep others waiting and you won’t tolerate others wasting your time. You’ll know you’re a badass with plenty to offer, and won’t let anyone take advantage of that. And you never work for free. …

It’s time to let go or be dragged. — I’m wearing a new tank top today that says it best: Let that shit go. I’m no longer willing to take up time or space to hold onto people, places, or things that have worn out their welcome long ago. I don’t want to waste any more time living in…

Humans have a molting process, too — Did you know the reticulated python continues to molt throughout its lifetime? They need to keep shedding their skin, because they can grow to be 30 feet long and weigh 550 pounds. Animals molt so they can grow bigger and stronger. …