LGBTQIA+ RELATIONSHIPS
And then you remember how it feels to be queer in the US
If you appear heterosexual, you likely have straight privilege. You don’t have to worry about anyone questioning or judging your sexual orientation. You can walk hand in hand with your girlfriend, boyfriend, lover, or spouse anywhere without a second glance. In most public places, you can kiss your date without a second thought.
I’m a proud member of the LGBTQIA+ community, but you might not have guessed. People can make assumptions because I write a lot about my past relationships with men, and most of my exes are men. …
Start by being one
Sharing our life and love with another brings fulfillment and joy.
Attracting a healthy person may be easy for most, but some of us struggle. Past trauma might have caused us to develop a “broken picker” along the way. We end up dating people who aren’t good for us.
I’ve consistently chosen potential mates who are unavailable, due to addiction or attachment issues. I’ve known this, yet I still attract partners who are emotionally unavailable to me.
How do we break our old patterns and find someone healthy? I pay attention to friends and family who have successful long-term relationships. I’ve noticed a few things that keep them together.
Become the ideal partner you’re looking for
You come…
Bi erasure doesn’t feel like privilege
It’s common to experience bisexual erasure in a heteronormative society. Sometimes it’s as simple as not looking like we’re bi. Although the “B” in LGBTQIA+ stands for bisexual, we don’t always appear to be a part of the community.
According to gladd.org, bi-erasure is defined as follows:
Bisexual erasure or bisexual invisibility is a pervasive problem in which the existence or legitimacy of bisexuality (either in general or in regard to an individual) is questioned or denied outright. — gladd.org
If we’re in a relationship with someone of the same gender, people make assumptions about our sexuality. A bisexual woman…
Visit them on Linden Ave in Carpinteria, CA
We stumbled upon the sweet Whimsy Antique Shop after my mom, kids, and I enjoyed a short children’s performance on Linden Avenue in Carpinteria, CA.
The first thing I noticed were the signs out front. One was “The fun starts here,” and the other prominently displayed on the window, their mission statement to support sustainability and green living.
By introducing you to our wonderful shop, we hope to show you how we actively pursue the antiques lifestyle that embodies our mission statement:
“Whimsy supports green living. Reuse, Recycle, Repurpose. Buy Vintage.” — Whimsy Antiques
Seeing the above statement, I knew…
A glimpse into a day in the life of a work-at-home mom
Trying to work as a creative writer with young children at home is like juggling kittens. They’re adorable but freak out when we toss them around. It’s impossible to keep them in the air, anyway.
Are you a single parent who’s working full-time to maintain your part-time job? Even when you’re working independently, you’re still a full-time parent. You might even be homeschooling. Taking care of yourself is also a full-time job. How do we find the time for all of that?
We don’t.
In her article, “5 Advantages And 5 Disadvantages Of Single Parenting,” Debolina Raja discusses pros and…
It’s one of many health care services at White Bird Clinic
We have some of the most comprehensive mental health care services in Eugene, Oregon. CAHOOTS is a valuable resource for people facing mental health challenges throughout Lane County. CAHOOTS has been serving the Eugene and Springfield community for over 30 years.
CAHOOTS consists of a mental health crisis intervention team partnered with the Eugene Police Department. Concerned citizens can call the non-emergency line to request a welfare check or report someone in an active nonviolent crisis. CAHOOTS will come out instead of police intervention.
CAHOOTS (Crisis Assistance Helping Out On The Streets) provides mobile crisis intervention 24/7 in the Eugene-Springfield…
Because paying it forward feels good and builds community
July 15th is National Give Something Away Day, founded by Linda Eaton Hall-Fulcher. She created the holiday to remind us of the profound power of giving. Not only does giving feel good inside, but we also build community and clear our space of what can become unnecessary clutter.
Life Works Counseling Center explains further:
National Give Something Away Day began as a grassroots effort by Linda Eaton Hall-Fulcher, who sees herself as a giver. She established the day to encourage generosity in all forms. Hall-Fulcher founded this holiday in 2015, submitting the holiday to the Registrar at National Day Calendar…
Be proactive — the earlier, the better
Are you going to be a distracted Jackson or a Focused Frida today? I think I should post that up on my nightstand. Living with an ADHD brain can make a day go sideways if we let it. We need to reduce distractions so we can be successful in our endeavors.
Ditch the distraction, Jackson
We live in a society rife with distractions to match our every whim. Want to avoid your feelings? Here’s an entertaining show, so you don’t have to face them. Need to commit to a project? Wait, check out this YouTube video first. It’s guaranteed to boost your creativity. Have…
MENTAL HEALTH & ADDICTION
It’s a lot like mourning a dead person
Some people make quite an impact on our lives. We meet, friendship forms, sparks fly, minds meld. Hearts soar, then subsequently break. These extraordinary life alterers often show up to teach us valuable lessons. But we often forget, because they left.
Not only did they leave you, but they also destroyed their life with drugs and alcohol. They left themselves to die slowly. And so you wait, wondering if they’ll ever return, refreshed and ready to make another go of it, if the gods and goddesses allow.
You know it’s absurd to wait for a person who probably isn’t coming…
RESTAURANT REVIEW
Enjoy outdoor seating while you dine on delicious Lebanese food
We recently ate at Zaytoon restaurant in Santa Barbara, CA, and I couldn’t be more satisfied. It had been many years, possibly over a decade, since I’d last dined there. Here’s their introduction:
A Lebanese restaurant serving fresh and high quality dishes. Our hidden oasis is situated on a large outdoor garden patio in downtown Santa Barbara. Established in 2005, we are proud to have hosted many special memories. — zaytoon.com
They have divine Middle Eastern cuisine and a talented chef offering a creative menu. It was the best meal I’ve had out in a long time.
It helped that…
Michelle Marie Warner
Grateful single mama writer with a plethora of passions. Keen observer with an eye for editing. She/her. Let’s connect. michellewarner718@gmail.com
