When you know, you know. — If you can read people well, you know if they’re a good fit before you meet or go out on a date. You don’t always know why you know. But you know. And it’s painfully obvious. …

Because anywhere but presence keeps you absent — Be Here Now. Thank you, Ram Dass. I almost forgot where and when I was at this moment. I noticed several triggers that catapulted me into the past the other morning. I had a sharp reaction to my kids’ conflict. …

People won’t respect your “No” — History is repeating itself, and it ends with me. I said no, and they tried to get me to say yes. That’s not ok and I know it. No means no, even to ourselves. If something doesn’t feel right or you know it’s not going to work, say no. …

Nothing — but it’s still a problem for some people — You’d think we would have evolved by now, but we’re still fighting for our right to marry in 2022. If you’re heterosexual and share the same race, ethnicity, or religion, then you can marry whomever you want, no questions asked. So what’s the problem? Why does marriage have to be…

And you might need to knock someone off their high place — Years ago my friend sent me a children’s book by an author friend, Monica Estill, called The Bossy Boulder. The story is of a boulder trying to be in charge, who gets knocked off his high place on top of a mountain by time and change. …

And your kitty is doing fine — I have the sweetest teenage kitty, after being without cats for years. Pepper is my kids’ first pet, and our designated Emotional Support Animal (ESA), so we can be allowed to keep her in our apartment. She helps us stay calm during stressful times and brings joy to our lives…

When society still supports monogamy as the better choice — I’m new to polyamory — so new, I’ve yet to experience it within a relationship. But now that I’ve had time to ask questions, educate myself with books and articles, and talk with a poly friend, I’m certain that ethical non-monogamy makes more sense than my old monogamous paradigm. …

I’ll need a human cashier to buy my bread, thank you — I remember the first time I checked out a ton of books and CDs at my local public library, way back in 2009. I preferred the help of a human, but I gave self checkout a try. I couldn’t scan nearly half of my items, necessitating the assistance of the…

Am I not that lucky after all? — I ran a red light the other day in my hometown of Santa Barbara. A driver turning left braked just in time, avoiding a collision. The Mission Street onramp is a busy intersection, and California drivers have an overall tendency to push forward when given the chance. I know better. …